From time to time, I found myself living out a conundrum. I know the sky is the limit for me. I know I'm going to do amazing things. I know I'm capable. I know I deserve to be whole. Yet it feels like everyone around me tells me the opposite. People who are supposed to love me and walk through life with me, affirm the opposite of what I believe about myself with their actions and behaviors toward me. I didn't know it would be this frustrating to create a better life for myself. I try to do something better, more fulfilling, more positive, and life just shuts the door in my face. Who knew that being a better person was this hard?! And why didn't anybody tell me?!
So here are some tips that I use when life tells me I'm not special:
Remember that Rome wasn't built in a day. Nothing good happens over night. I'm going to get where I want to be, there's no doubt about it. Until then, I just have to enjoy the ride.
Don't lose sight of the goal. Write the goal. Make steps to reach the goal. Revisit the goal every once in a while. Find others who have reached the goal. Read their stories. These are the basics of goal setting, but I have one addition: document threats to the goal. If your goal is to be more positive, take note of negative-Nancy's. If your goal is to do amazing things, take note of situations that make you feel like you can't.
Be your own #1 fan. You can tell yourself that you're special and you're awesome and you deserve the best of the best all you want, but nobody cares. So you have to be your number one fan.
Treat yourself the way you want to be treated. Self-love is so important. People will always treat you how they think you should be treated, but that is not a reflection of who you are. So do something just for you. Take care of yourself.
Enjoy the ride. If you don't enjoy the trip, chances are you won't enjoy the destination either. Mentally prepare yourself to be where you want to be. It's going to be hard work, but don't let the hard work make you regret wanting more for yourself.
Last of all, you are special. I don't doubt it. You are amazing. You are capable. You will do amazing things.